Sex Orgy Tips For Safe And Enjoyable Orgies

Sex Orgy Tips For Safe And Enjoyable Orgies

A sex orgy is an amazing experience, and it’s also an intense one. Whether you are participating or just watching, there are certain precautions that should be taken to ensure your own safety and enjoyment.

First and foremost, affirmative consent is key. This means that you must ask your partners permission to touch them.

1. Know Your Boundaries

The most important thing to do before going to any orgy is to know your boundaries. This can include what you’re comfortable with in terms of group sex and whether or not you’ll be participating at all, as well as your limits on touching and kissing. It’s also a good idea to get tested for STIs beforehand, since this can help you avoid the risks of sharing toys or condoms with other people at the party.

Additionally, it’s helpful to research the orgy ahead of time and learn about its rules and organizer. Ideally, you should have a good idea about what to expect from the play and can ask questions about things like dress code, sex toy use, sex etiquette, safe words and any specific fetishes that may be encouraged. Many orgies also have buddy systems in place to promote social accountability, so it’s a good idea to bring a friend or be sure to let the organizer know you’ll be attending with a partner.

2. Know Your Partners

When you’re at the orgy with a partner, it’s important to have a clear discussion about what you’re both comfortable with. Maybe you want to only play as a couple, or perhaps you’re open to hooking up with other people. Whatever you’re comfortable with, make sure your partners know that and are able to articulate that in the moment if things start to heat up.

Some orgy communities have structures in place to help ensure everyone’s safety. For example, at Hacienda, a New York sex-positive community, all new members must be sponsored by an existing member to promote accountability. Similarly, Kinky Salon has a buddy system to promote responsibility amongst participants.

On the other hand, some people might just be a little too shy to initiate with strangers in front of a crowd. And that’s okay! Be respectful if they give you a tepid thanks and move on.

3. Be Prepared

You’re not a prude if you don’t want to be involved with an orgy or other sex-focused events. But if you do want to explore sexuality with multiple partners, you have several options for doing so safely.

Many orgy parties are hosted in private homes, but they can also take place in public dungeons or specialized clubs for BDSM or kink. You should research the type of orgy you’re interested in and check out the rules before deciding to go.

Most orgies involve intimate and physical play, but it’s important to be open-minded and communicate with your partners clearly about what they’d like to do. Make sure you’re clear on what kind of sex you’re okay with, and never participate in anything that feels wrong. Always wear a condom and bring extras with you to the party if possible. It’s also smart to get tested for STIs before you attend.

4. Be Patient

It takes a bit of time to get comfortable with the intimacy of an orgie and everyone will be at different speeds. The organiser or hired entertainer may excite the crowd with sexy games and impromptu comedy to break the ice. This is a great way to establish clear boundaries and expectations before the sex starts.

Orgies are sex-positive environments so don’t be afraid to interact with partners that you wouldn’t normally play with. It’s also a fantastic place to discover new kinks and explore sexual grey areas.

Often hosts will provide a variety of safer sex supplies such as condoms, gloves, and dental dams but if you’re an all-time latex user or have any other specific needs it’s worth bringing your own. It’s also a good idea to bring snacks and plenty of water as orgies can be thirsty work.

5. Don’t Get Too Intoxicated

Most orgies involve drinking and drugs, but you don’t want to get too drunk to make sensible decisions. You also don’t want to get so drunk that you are unable to understand what is going on, which can lead to unsafe sexual interactions. Try to alternate alcoholic drinks with water, which will keep you hydrated and help you avoid an alcohol-induced buzz.

While most people in the kink community are careful about consent and creating a good atmosphere, there will always be some people who don’t respect others’ boundaries or who just don’t have what it takes for an orgie. If someone rejects your advances, don’t push it. It’s better to be respectful and leave than to risk having a bad experience. Also, remember that orgies are often private events and people use aliases to protect their identities. This means you shouldn’t take photos of people at a party without their permission.

6. Clean Up

It’s important to remember that, just like any party, orgies require some cleanup afterward. This includes cleaning all surfaces that people have fucked on, including the bed and all sex toys used. It also means cleaning any clothing that’s been worn or soiled during the event.

Harris says the key to throwing an orgy is having a ringleader of sorts who can keep everyone on track with communications and activities. She also suggests keeping the guest list small to ensure a genuine shared experience.

Attending a sex orgy isn’t for everybody, and that’s okay. But if you do decide to attend, be prepared for an intense and transformative experience. Just be sure to stay safe, prioritize your own boundaries, and always listen to your body. And if you’re planning to host, make sure to have a safe and comfortable space with hygienic bathroom amenities.